Friday, October 5, 2007

Right To Reinvent Self

Quitting smoking is really a total shift in Identity. With a capital "I." This, smoking, was a part of who I was. Am. I identified with I can if I want. You can't make me stop it." Pass all the rules you like and attach all the sin tax - YOU CAN'T MAKE ME STOP!!! I am a smoker! Smokers have rights! F YOU!

Okay, when we become grownups we have to let go of certain things because they become destructive to us. I know that when I try to drink alcohol like I used to I can literally be ill for DAYS now. I just don't recover like I used to and I have to be a MOM during those days. It's just not practical for me to party hard anymore.

But that doesn't mean it's easy to let go of that identity. I think quiting smoking has a lot to do with "growing up." Some people do it at 60, some 40, I did it at 33. There's a right time for everyone - but yeah an alteration in identity is a way bigger freaking deal than just breaking a nasty habit.

But, you have a right to change your mind. Everyone can reinvent themselves. Everyone and anyone can reinvent themselves every day if they want to. Look at Madonna - she does it frequently enough. She does something until it stops serving her and she decides to try something else. We can be like that.

This isn't serving me anymore. I can let go of it. It's hard but I reserve the right to reinvent self. I might try on a few different things before I settle on something that works for me. I even reserve the right to reinvent myself as many times as I need to before I die.

Once you realize smoking was an inherent part of your identity you can take steps to mourn it and let it go and open the doors to reinvention.

That's why I refer to myself as a non-smoker. It's a shift in Identity. One that I'm claiming for myself.


Maybe Im Amazed said...

Thanks for posting on my blog. I have read alot of your posts and I enjoy them. Congratulations on the non-smoker thing. I TOTALLY refer to myself as a non-smoker now... not a smoker who is choosing not to smoke... that takes away from the accomplishments we have made. Anyhow... you bring up some great thoughts.
Have a nice-smoke-free-day:)

Tracee said...

Lisa, Right back at you with the congrats. You are a non-smoker. It's awesome. It's an important distinction - we are not smokers who want to quit. We have to become, be, non-smokers.

Thanks for stopping by!


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Thanks Therapydoc, It means a lot coming from you. Tracee